Free to Be Fabulous in time for Mother’s Day!

I’m so excited I can’t sit still!

Fabulous Friends

12 of my Fabulous Friends!

Free to Be Fabulous: 100 Ways to Look and Feel Younger at 40, 50, and Beyond debuts on May 5, just in time for Mother’s Day. You’ll find ideas to improve your beauty, your body, your behavior, and your beliefs. Some are easy; others will take time. And Mom can find ideas too! Order your copy here on Amazon! Then, let me know what you think and what your favorite idea is. And you can tell Amazon and all your friends how you like it by writing a review. I’d really appreciate it! Thanks, and I hope you enjoy looking and feeling younger! Debb

World Book Blog Tour

Thank you, Elizabeth Van Liere (better known as Betty), for the opportunity to go on this blog tour. I had no idea what a blog tour was and how it worked, so thanks for a chance to see it firsthand.

Betty is a delightful “almost elderly” lady (she’s 90) whom I met at the Colorado Christian Writers’ Conference in Estes Park. Despite the high altitude in the Rocky Mountains, Betty attended for several years, learning, networking, and pitching just like us “young folks.” In 2011, her book “Dare to Live: Devotions for Those Over the Hill, not Under It!” was published. It’s a delightful collection of biblical insights specifically for other almost-elderly folks and in large print.

What am I working on?

My current work is Free to Be Fabulous from 40, 50, and Beyond: 100 Ways to Look and Feel Younger. I just sent my manuscript off to my publisher, Morgan James, and it should be released in early 2015, in time for Mother’s Day.

How does my work differ from others of its genre?

Most make-over books tell the reader how to changer her appearance. They give detailed instructions for hair, makeup, and clothes for a woman to look better. But that’s as far as they go – surface changes only.

Free to Be Fabulous from 40, 50, and Beyond is divided into four parts: Basics, Beauty, Beliefs, Body, and Behavior. Basics gives my story of how I became younger; Beauty is the usual, how to change the outside; Beliefs covers how and what you think; Body talks about keeping things inside running smoothly; and Behavior teaches how to interact with others. Using these suggestions, a woman can change herself from the outside in. Since it takes three weeks for a habit to become permanent, anyone can establish 17 new habits in a year, and become a new person by her next birthday.

Why do I write what I do?

As the Queen of Resilience, I’ve bounced back from so much. Beginning with a childhood of poverty, the fifth of six children, and abused by my father, I got lost in the middle – a lot. Being born in early December caused my birthday to be forgotten on more than one occasion. A 19-year marriage to a man who ultimately admitted he was gay, then a 13-year marriage to a wonderful man who died of cancer gave me every reason to be bitter.

I learned that what happens to me is not as important as how I react to it. All those rotten things and others could have turned me into an angry old woman. I saw others who held onto past hurts and let them fester, affecting their health and their faces. I didn’t want that, so I learned how to forgive and move on. And I’m convinced that anyone can do the same.

How does my writing process work?

I’m a plotter – in life and in my writing. I write all my ideas on little slips of paper and spread them out on my dining room table. Then, I sort them and move them around into groups so there’s a natural flow. Then, I fill in the paragraphs and write my book. Of course, it has to be edited and edited and edited again, so sometimes the topics get moved around even more.

One thing I insist on is that I write like I talk. In fact, the second-best compliment I ever receive is that someone felt that when they were reading my book, I was sitting next there and talking to them. (The best compliment is that my book changed their attitude or their life.)

Next stop on the World Blog Book Tour

I’ve been overwhelmed with landscaping my backyard, stripping and painting Adirondack chairs, and preparing to teach a writing workshop . As a result, I haven’t contacted anyone to continue the book tour. I’ll call some friends and post their names and book info here. Check back in a few days and I’m sure you’ll be delighted with their blogs.

Debbie Hardy, The Queen of Resilience

Debbie Hardy Head Shot 2I’ve been knocked down and bounced back so many times, some folks call me a Weeble(TM) — remember? Weebles wobble but they don’t fall down.

That has made me The Queen of Resilience!

Add Color to your looks and life!

I used to wear basic black or navy blue so I’d look thinner. While it looked slim, it also looked drab. I eventually learned that color has an effect on attitude, my own and others.

Nowadays, I may start with a basic dark color, but I always punctuate it with color, either as a scarf around my neck or a great necklace or brooch with earrings. And sparkles, whether in jewelry or threads in a scarf, bring more glamour to your appearance.

What works even better is a bright jacket, maybe purple or fuchsia (dark hot pink). Then, add two or three necklaces in the same color for a pulled-together look. You’ll find yourself getting compliments from friends and someone in line with you at the store. It’s happened to me, and it could happen to you, too!

Fabulous is an Attitude

I’m not a beauty, not by any stretch of the imagination. I’ve never turned heads by my looks when entering a room. Maybe I could with purple spiked hair, but not normally.

But I have turned heads. It’s my attitude. I walk like a queen, with my head held high, as though there’s a crown on my head and I expect people to admire me. And it works!

Try it. Look at yourself in a mirror and imagine a crown on your head. Then stretch your neck to hold the crown steady. Now walk with your head held high. You’ll be amazed at how people respond to you differently when you exude confidence.

Go for it. You’re fabulous!

Instant Facelift

Gravity is useful until it starts working on your face. You know – your eyebrows droop onto your eyelids, your cheeks start falling toward your neck, and the rings around your neck become ovals.

I recently met a doctor with a successful practice helping women tighten their skin and reduce wrinkles without plastic surgery. She charges hundreds and thousands of dollars for temporary improvement. Some procedures must be repeated on a regular basis. Too expensive and time-consuming for me!

There is one way to have a facelift without money, doctors, or recovery time: SMILE! A smile instantly raises your cheeks to get rid of your jowls. And smiling with your eyes gets rid of the droopy eyebrows.

Dr. Phil had a guest once who refused to smile because she felt it caused wrinkles. But the end result had the opposite effect: instead of looking younger, she looked old and cranky. Not a good outcome!

So if you want an instant facelift, use your face muscles. The exercise will improve your looks AND your outlook!

Easiest Way to Be Fabulous

Are you having a fabulous day? I am, mostly because I decided I would.

The number one way to be fabulous is to have a positive attitude. That will transform into an attractive face, a friendly disposition, and a person others want to be around.

Life hasn’t been particularly good to me, but that doesn’t mean that I deserve a fulltime pity party. So I wake up every morning eager to see what today will bring, even if there’s nothing fun on the schedule. I learned long ago that if you live life looking only in the rear-view mirror, you’ll have some serious crashes that could have been prevented. I know lots of people who held onto grudges so much it showed on their faces. Not pretty!

Here’s a tip: just for today, make up your mind that you’re not going to allow a negative thought to hang around. They may pop up every once in a while, but that doesn’t mean you invite them in for an extended stay. Then, do it again tomorrow and the next day and the next. After a while, it’ll become second nature and you’ll be pleased with the way you are.

Stay positive and BE FABULOUS!

Welcome to a Fabulous World!

Hello, all you fabulous ladies from 40, 50, and beyond! Hope you’re having as great a day as I am.

This is the first post on my new blog, where I plan to share some tidbits I’ve learned about looking, acting, and feeling younger. These are similar to ideas in my upcoming book, Free to Be Fabulous from Forty, Fifty, and Beyond: 100 Ways to Look, Act and Feel Younger.

Follow this blog as I help you take years off your appearance, attitude, and emotions. Choose which ideas you want to use, and discard the rest.

I’ll work hard to keep my posts short and sweet. and I promise not to have verbal diarrhea.

Enjoy your step-by-step journey to a more fabulous you! And feel free to add your comments to help all of us on this road NOT to get old!